Sometimes in life everything we do becomes overbearing. For us, working more than 40 hours a week, training in the offseason, spending time with friends, writing a blog, checking email, playing music, and many other activities sometimes creep up on us and overwhelm. We have also noticed that the more intense challenges we seem to tackle at once, the worse that we do at it and the more we get a feeling of “having to do it.” This mentality makes us want to stay in bed rather than go out and live sometimes, which is bad. On the contrary, we are reading blogs and stories and the newspaper along with chatting with people about their high for life, excitement to be alive, thankfulness for today, and so on. This makes us realize that these people have found life in a way of a “wanting to do it” philosophy. So to fix this problem of “having to do” stuff, we have come up with a short list of how to move us from a mentality of “have to do” to one of “wanting to do.”
1. Eliminate the unessential. Relationships, jobs, and anything that is apparently overbearing you should initially start to be eliminated. This doesn’t mean quit your day job and go instantly in the direction that you want; you will have to take baby steps to get there, but piece by piece you will make it along.
2. Exalt what matters most.
.After eliminating the small things that clutter your life, you will be able to begin to exalt what matters most. As the baby steps start to eliminate what matters least, there will be a transition to adding baby steps for what matters most. If you push away the unessential and push for the essential,you will start living for what truly matters.
3. Balance and accept the leftovers. In everyone’s life there will always be something that they don’t want. There will always be an amount of defeat in your fulfillment, just like a yin-yang. This step involves taking the bad with the good. If you are exalting the good and what matters most, you will begin to see less bad, which results in more happiness.
4. Continue to Remember: baby steps. Nothing much can be accomplished greatly overnight, especially when it takes experts 10,000 hours to get there. If you remember the art of taking baby steps, then you will slowly transform yourself and eliminate the unessential in your life. Pursuing baby steps will help you move from having to do something to wanting to do something.